How To Perform Cunnilingus

Some consider oral sex the most intimate of all sex acts. Cunnilingus, the technical term for performing oral sex on a woman, can be incredibly intimate. To be good at it you have to be an excellent reader of her body, her breathing, her movements, and what she may be telling you with words. Everything you do is for your partner in that moment and not based on a performance expectations, lessons from porn, or previous oral sex experiences. It can be a bit Zen, but with more saliva.

Difficulty: N/A

Time Required: 30-60 minutes

Here's How:

1. Clean yourself up!
   Make sure your hands are clean, and your nails are trimmed as you'll probably want to use your hands as well as your mouth on her. Shave your stubble—nothing kills the mood quite like sandpaper on her sensitive parts.
2. Get wet.
   Many men have preconceived notions about the taste and/or smell of their partner’s genitals. If you're anxious about this, suggest a romantic bath or shower together and then go down on her. Getting naked and wet with each other is never a bad idea, and as you get more comfortable you will probably find that your partners taste and smell trigger more arousal than anything else. Some people use flavored lubricants, and many dental dams (great for safer sex) are flavored also.
3. Start slowly.
   Most women won’t want to go from zero to oral sex in 30 seconds. Take your time and ease into it. Do other things you know she loves. Use your hands and mouth all over her body—which will nicely foreshadow what is to come. When she’s good and excited—her hips are thrusting and the moans pretty regular, head south.
4. Get comfortable.
   This will be different for everyone, but both of you will enjoy this more if you’re both comfortable. Use pillows and be creative with positioning so that you are both relaxed and feel like you can move around. Some people will find it hard on their neck to lie between their partners legs with their head poised over her vulva. For others this will work just great. Remember that it’s okay to change positions and move around.
5. Get the lay of the land.
   If you don’t have the body parts, you may want to brush up on your female genital anatomy . Most of the attention with cunnilingus is on the clitoris, but don’t forget the rest of her body. But every woman is different, and there may be other parts of her that will take oral sex from the everyday to the out of this world. Use your fingers to spread her lips and take a good look at her clitoris, her labia, her mons, her vagina, her perineum and her anus.
6. When in doubt, go slow.
   A lot of women have very sensitive clits, so don’t attack her vulva as if it were a juicy ripe peach. Flatten your tongue and use wide slow strokes to explore her inner and outer lips, her vagina, and her clitoris. Imagine licking an ice cream cone. Start at the perineum and lick up and around her clit and back down the other side.
7. Check the hood.
   Most women prefer to have their clitorises licked through the "clitoral hood." This is a fold of skin that covers the actual glans of the clitoris, which is extremely sensitive.
8. Experiment with different strokes.
   In general, women tend to like firm pressure and repetitive motion. Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris can be irritating. If you’re not sure, ask her to give you feedback while you try different kinds of strokes—circular, side-to-side, up-and-down. Don’t take it personally if she flinches—discovering what pleases is often a process of trial and error—just try something else.
9. Let her give you a hand.
   If you've ever seen her masturbate, you have some idea how she likes her clit to be touched. Ask her to show you now, or you can offer her your hand and ask her to demonstrate the kind of stroking she prefers by placing hers on top of yours.
10. Use your mouth.
    Take her clit in your mouth and gently suck on it. Use your mouth to suck on or nibble her labia.
11. Add penetration.
    When she’s good and excited, add some lubricant to your fingers or toy and gently insert it into her vagina. Move them in and out using short but firm strokes. Put your mouth back on her clitoris and lick her while you penetrate her. This won’t do it for all women, but many love the experience of clitoral stimulation and penetration.
12. Keep a steady pace, try not to stop.
    Women like steady stimulation, so don’t stop unless you need to come up for air. You’ll see the signs when she’s getting ready to go over the top—her moans, her thighs pressing against your head, her body arching, her hands tightening on your head! When the orgasm washes over you, she’ll let you know when to stop.

Tips:

1. Don't forget the rest of her body. In terms of what's nearby, you can incorporate the perineum and vaginal opening into your oral sex. Let your tongue travel down and pop in and out of the vagina occasionally.
2. If you are using a sex toy for penetration, she might prefer to work the dildo or vibrator inside her while you're licking. This allows you to concentrate, and her to get the rhythm she likes best.
3. If your mouth or tongue tires, give it a rest, but replace the stimulation with your hand or a vibrator (unless she wants a rest too).
4. It can take women longer to come than men, and many women are anxious about this. Whatever you do, don't make her feel bad about how long it's taking, and hang in there for the long haul. If you need to stop or change things up, that’s okay, but don’t make it about her “taking too long”.

by: Cory Silverberg

How To Make A Man Happy In Bed

A woman who can make her man happy is in the real sense 'a complete woman'. Are you the one or craving to become a dream woman of your man!

Do not panic anymore lady, as here are the coolest tips for a complete make-over towards perfection. Being a married man, and not to mention that i am the happiest and the luckiest man on this earth to have married the best woman on earth! The way my better half has made me a proud husband, you can also do the same.

So, here are some guidelines for every woman out there reading my article, that will make your husband crave for you!

Firstly, never assume that if you come to know how to make your man happy in bed, then you have won the battle. No, that is not the right attitude! You have to make your man happy inside and outside the bedroom. Do not leave the things half way, this makes it much more difficult for you to amend them later on.

So, before we move further, let us discuss what you being a woman, need to change in you to make your man happy outside the bedroom:

What a man needs is some respect from his life partner. And if you cannot give him the respect he needs, then you will lose the respect he has for you in his heart. First give what you want in return. Its well said'

'treat others the way you want yourself to be treated'

Devote some time to your husband, to your relationship, because this life is too short for keeping grudges against the one with whom you are going to spend your last breath with! So, why not make the best out of what you have with you right now! This is life.

And if you want to make your man happy in the real sense, then you will have to make certain changes in you.

Next is the looks department- A man always wants his woman to look good and likeable. So what, if you are not that born beautiful, at least you can wear good make-up and a nice outfit that looks great on you, your height, your complexion, your built. This makes him realise how much you think of, what he wants from you. There are some things that have to be shown and expressed, do not take everything for granted that he knows that. No, you have to show how much you care for him, how much you love him and how much you need him.

Make him feel special!

Now, the thing is how to make your man happy through his stomach. If you are blessed with a good cooking style, then this is not at all difficult for you. Make something special for your man at least on the weekend, when you have enough time to spend with each other. Prepare his favorite food or some new recipe containing his favorite ingredients. This will make him really the happiest of all the men on this earth!

Even if you are not that good natural cook, do not worry. You can get those fabulous cooking books from any bookstore or online cooking recipes or you can learn from the cooking programs telecasted on television.

The last main thing for you is to take initiative when he is around, in bedroom or out of your bedroom! This makes you more entertaining and desirable in his eyes! He will love to be in your company. When outdoors, try to go for what your man has always expressed his desire for, like he is fond of watching cricket right there in the cricket stadium. Even if you do not like it, you should try to think from his point of view, how much crazy he is for cricket. One step forward from your side means another one from him. Respect his likings, and in return, you will get the same from him.

And, when inside the bedroom, forget about hesitation or likes and dislikes. Be fully expressive and the wildest ever!

Shower him with your sexuality and wild desires, no place for hidden desires! Got it..

Do what he likes, no restrictions, no boundaries, just love, love and love everywhere. Do not lie like a piece of furniture in front of your man, be active and initiative and try new ways to caress and excite him.

And for more on this, go for the spicy and easy to apply tips on how to make a man happy in bed.

3 Love Making Tips for Married Couples

Since you've probably been making love with each other for a number of years and wonder why you need to read an article about love-making, you may be in for a few surprises if you do.

There might be a few things that you've forgotten along the way and there might be a few things that you might want to try that are new.

So here goes a few love making tips just for you...

1. Make time for love and romance. Time can certainly slip away from you and you can put love making on the back burner, figuring you'll get to it when things calm down. If you're like most people, you have to make time for what's important in your life. If intimate time with your partner is important to you, make time for it. If being spontaneous never seems to work out, schedule a "love date" and then don't allow "life" to get in the way.

2. If you don't feel like making love, say so, but be honest with your partner and yourself why you don't feel like it. Sounds simple but sometimes it isn't. Very often, physical ailments-real or imagined-are allowed to interfere with being intimate. Sometimes you just are too tired and love making is the furthest thing from your mind. Whatever the case, be honest with your partner and then make a "date" when you know that you'll feel better or have more time to devote to each other. Don't use the old "I have a headache" excuse when you are really feeling disconnection from your partner. Deal with the issue and you'll feel better.

3. Focus on each other and not on the kids or your work. Clear your mind from extraneous thoughts, worries and fears when you come together for love-making. If it isn't possible to do that, tell your partner that you need some time and then take a walk to clear your head. You may need to talk about some problem or clear up some issue with your partner. Do it and then focus on how much you love each other.

There are many other things you can do to create more passion in your love making and increase your connection. It takes learning some new skills and creating some new ways of being together.

3 Sexual Positions That Will Make Her Scream With Delight

Nothing makes for a better climax than kinky, new sexual positions. These three were not developed by me but there is a cool new twist to each of them. When you apply these moves just as they are laid out (no pun intended), she will scream with delight. Let's take a look.

The Updated Missionary Position: Yeah, I know. Who wants to hear about the default sexual position. Well, listen up and you will reap the benefits later. Of course, we all know that this means the guy goes on top of her in pancake fashion. The added part is this: Lift her right leg straight up or bend it at the knee while pressing down deep. This simple addition will bring her much more pleasure and as it usually happens, the more she is turned on - the greater your experience will be. If you want to crank it up a notch, try elevating both legs. Remember, the further back the leg(s) go, the deeper the penetration.

The Doggy From Higher Position: Sure, going in from behind is also a common sexual position but most stop with the basic version. Again, crank it up with increased orgasmic delight for the both of you. Usually, the doggy style lends itself to the penis running straight in but that is not the greatest area of pleasure for her. If you want to really drive her wild, make sure your penis rubs against her vaginal roof. This is easily and best accomplished by elevating her up on her knees and bring it from behind with thrusts upward. Experiment with this and once you find the right placement, the experience will get better an better for both.

The Sideways Double Dip: If she is wanting you to just give it to her then here it is. This is straight up hot! Pull her close to your side. While you are both naked laying side to side, kiss on her neck and rub her nipples until she is ready for it. Then give it to her from the side, stroking strongly while stimulating her clitoris with your index finger. I guarantee a wild time for her and promise you that this will be a sexual position that you will visit again and again.